Tell them I LOVE YOU… and sooner is better than later. But do it from your heart. And don’t be afraid. Clear the cobwebs from the past and you’ll be able to live in the present feeling more love. And that’s a great thing!
“I love you.” What do the words really mean? When you tell someone I love you what are your motivations?
Do you…
- Say “I love you” void of depth and meaning?
- Use the words to manipulate or control another?
- Hope to hear them say I love you back?
Or on the other side of the spectrum… do you avoid saying “I love you” altogether, unable to express the depth of feelings you have for someone you care about.
Recently I had a dream about my ex-lover. A man who made a huge impact on my life. A man who was a big reason why I decided to study the power of sexual energy and become a Divine Feminine Educator. It was because of him that I journeyed so deeply within. I thank him for the gift he gave me as a catalyst for my own personal growth and transformation.
A Dream About My Ex-Lover
My dreams are never extremely vivid. I wake up in the morning more often than not vaguely able to remember them. When I can they are sometimes bazaar and unclear. Other times they are pleasant, uplifting and emotionally satisfying. The dream about my ex-lover was quite wonderful. And I love those kinds of dreams!
The dream was simple; it was me telling him I love him and I love his body. It wasn’t a sexual dream. The energy of the dream was deep, heartfelt love. I was honoring his beautiful body; his sacred temple. The dream warmed my heart. He was a climber and his body was amazing. He was in great physical shape. His body was like a piece of art. He had developed such a beautifully toned body by climbing rock walls such as those in Red Rock and Zion National Park.
I told him this special message of “I love you” about a week after having the dream and shortly before
he took his own life. I had no idea that’s what was going to happen.
We hadn’t talked in quite a while. Since he was an ex of mine we didn’t have much contact. The last contact we did had was less than positive and quite emotionally triggering. None the less, I decided to take a risk and called him. You see, I’m a Queen of Hearts in the Destiny Card system. I’m the Queen of Love. Or at least I’m supposed to be. I do feel much better when I can live my life more open-hearted. And I believe part of my mission is to help others do the same.
But when I called him, he didn’t pick up his phone. My vulnerable little heart decided not to leave a message.
But my love for him and my dream’s message needed to be relayed. In a couple of days, seeing that I had called, he called me back. To my relief, we had a really touching and sweet conversation. One without a feeling of distance. The closeness was there. And in a pure innocent authentic way.
I told him about the dream. And I told him I love him. It wasn’t that I was trying to get back together with him, re-spark the flame or get him to say the same thing back to me. We both acknowledge how important we were for each other and how we had impacted each other’s lives. I am so glad I was able to have that connection with him before he left.
I told him “I love you.” before he died
I knew in my heart this man held a very special place for me. There was no reason to hide it from him or even the world for that matter. That’s why I’m writing this to you now. I love him!!! I don’t need to have a love relationship with him; I don’t need anything from him. I don’t even need his approval.
All I needed him to know was exactly what was in the dream… that I love him and I love his body. It was simple and pure. I told him I wanted good things for him in his life and that I wish him well. It felt good to give him my gift of heartfelt love and expect nothing in return. It was pure and sweet and had a deep sense of authenticity to it.
What a blessing it was to openly express my love to him. There was no agenda and he received it well. We were honoring the love, connection and even friendship that was there even though we were ex-lovers. Neither of us were guarded. It felt so good. Because we had had a very tumultuous relationship. I remember that conversation as if it was yesterday. I was so lucky to have had that conversation with him because four months after that phone conversation he took his life.
I’m very grateful I acted on my hearts impulse to let him know I love him. I’m glad I had a chance to wish him well and let him know that I only want the best for him. My heart aches that he took his life. I deeply grieve his death and still think of him often. At least I know that he knows I love him. And I feel the love he has for me as well. That love is eternal.
Tell them I love you… before they are gone.
- Is there someone in your life that you need to make peace with?
- Is there someone you need to let know you love them?
- Are you holding back love from someone special in your life and holding a wall instead?
Don’t wait another minute. Pick up the phone and let them know they are important to you. Holding up a wall between the two of you will only rob you of your aliveness. Holding up a wall between you and another person will only keep your heart shut.
It’s important to take care of yourself emotionally and express instead of repressing your emotions. Don’t deny yourself love. Learn to use feminine energy and your softer less guarded side to connect with a man. You might just open both of your hearts.
So open your heart, reach out and let someone know that you love them. Who is that person for you? Can you pick up the phone and tell them I love you without expecting anything in return? So many of us hold back and hold on to the past. We walk around with unprocessed feelings and distort experiencing from the past. Let them go by learning how to become more emotionally aware instead of staying emotionally stuck. Love is what we came here to learn to express to others (and ourselves). Reach out and love someone today. Tell them I love you.
I want to encourage you to overcome some of your most agonizing emotions that are getting in the way of feeling loved. It’s our love relationships that affect us so deeply. Both positively and negatively. But it doesn’t have to be a lover. It could be a sister, a brother, a father a mother. Or someone else who you need to come clean with. You could free yourself from unconscious stuck emotions and open to more love by truly taking care of yourself emotionally and letting go of limiting stories from the past.
Who do you need to say I love you to?
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I’m Anna-Thea an author and Divine Feminine Educator. Did this article resonate with you? If you want to learn more about opening your heart and having the courage to express your love check out my online courses.
Sending you much love!
Anna-Thea
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